One of the major route people take to escape the responsibility of their lives is blame. You see in almost any traffic jam scenario where two drivers have crashed into each other’s cars, they are found arguing in the middle of the street causing the jam. One person is going about pointing at the other saying who’s going to pay for this, don’t you know how to drive, this is your fault and the other person goes on pointing back and saying you are blind, my grand mother can drive better than you, this is your fault and this blame game doesn’t end till one of them or a third party takes responsibility.

People often mistake taking responsibility for taking the blame or being something serious or dull where in reality responsibility gives people the freedom to choose where as not taking responsibility is equivalent to living in a cage with no choice. For example if you see a dog suffering on the road side you can either take responsibility or not irrespective of the fact who is to blame.

If you don’t take responsibility the only choice you have is to ignore and leave whereas if you decide to take responsibility you will have a wide array of choices you can call for a vet, you can bring milk or water for the dog, you can get a warm blanket or just sit next to the dog and brush it's fur to ease the pain.

You will see often times people blame everyone including themselves for their problems like I’m pissed cause my wife keeps on nagging me, Im upset cause my boyfriend cheated on me, I’m stressed cause I’m afraid my girlfriend will leave me, I’m cynical cause my father left me when I was young and so on. All this doesn’t solve anything it just provides one with an excuse to not take responsibility. If you feel that the situation you are in is by someone else’s choice then only they can choose to take you out but once you take the responsibility that every situation no matter how it is, is by your choice then and only then you can choose to get out of it.