The need for companionship
arises from loneliness, only a lonely person needs company. you came alone in
this world and you are going to go alone you can’t even take your body with you
as it will be as good as maggot poop. When you are with someone you resent, you
don’t want to be in their company right? When you are alone who are you with?
Yourself! So if you don’t like to be with yourself then the company is
unpleasant and on top of that torturous, thats what you put yourself through
and such company you want someone else to bear, now that’s downright cruel.
Being uncomfortable in a crowd is understandable
but when you are with yourself and no one is around then there is no excuse as
it should be peaceful and quiet. This quietness is dreaded by many as when it’s
quiet the noise of the mind becomes more audible which people dont put in
effort in learning how to deal with and that’s when people rush to places where
either the bottles are full or the people are empty.
The need for companionship also stems from a
feeling of inadequacy which if not satisfied will lead to desperation as when
one is with oneself there is something or someone missing, and it has been fed
to us in many ways and forms that you need to have friends, have a spouse, have
kids, have academic acclaim and so on basically saying that you are formed
incomplete and your whole life is a search for completion.
It’s an unfortunate notion that you are born
incomplete and have to look for something or someone to complete you. If you
can’t be with yourself, you can’t be with someone else. If misery, agony,
anxiety, boredom is all you experience when with yourself then even if you find
a crowd or community you will still be the same miserable, agonised, anxious,
bored person in a lonesome crowd.