Love requires a stable
foundation, only the peaceful can experience love. People who operate with lust
are jittery and anxious they cannot just be. The urges of the lustful and
passionate drive them insane as they are constantly running away from their
madness that wrecks havoc on them when they are by themselves so they escape
through all sorts of different ways. Their obsession or clingy nature is just
silly as they are not at ease and always unfulfilled in the present looking for
something else, something more, something missing.
No matter what the result may be the reality is
that they are sick and them escaping the sickness which can be treated with
just a pinch of sense is being neglected which will not change anything and in
worst case scenario aggravate the issue.
A lustful person is like a fugitive, always on the
run and can never be at ease whereas a lover is a free person, who can just be
peaceful and dive deep in the ocean of love, open to all the possibilities life
has to offer. As your love matures and you become more and more inclusive you
become compassionate. That maturing happens when you become less clingy and
foster dispassion.
Dispassion is not apathy, it doesn’t mean lack of
care, the difference between apathy and dispassion is that apathy leads to
dullness whereas dispassion leads to bliss. A dispassionate person understands
that nothing is permanent and everything is created and destroyed or gets born
and dies. A dispassionate person understands that nothing is worth holding on
to or clinging to which is why a dispassionate person can walk through life
with ease, detached and with suffering ceased as things come and go he just
witnesses it, happiness comes then goes, misery comes then goes.
Compassion is unifying and it takes away the idea
of separateness whereas passion is singular. Compassion transcends the
constriction of passion and is a love that encompasses everyone and everything.
This allows you to develop intimate connections with everything and everyone as
intimacy is not about sex or revealing secrets, its about being in touch with
your core and when this becomes a reality you will experience everything as a
part of yourself.